Guest Blogger: Aline DeFiglia, LCSW
What other people say or do may be a stimulus for our feelings, but never the cause. Whenever someone communicates negatively, we have four options:
In a world where we are often harshly judged for identifying and revealing our needs, doing so can be very frightening, especially for women who are socialized to ignore their own needs while caring for others.
In the course of developing emotional responsibility, most of us experience three stages:
Although we all have capacity to hurt one another, there is a difference between a mutual commitment to learn and practice more positive communication and the harm of abusive behavior. If you suspect you are a victim of abuse, there is help! http://www.thehotline.org/
The following was excerpted in part from Nonviolent Communication: 2nd Edition by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg.
This article is the second in a five part series about clean living through toxin-free communication. To read Part I about Nonviolent Communication, click here.